My 3 pieces of advice for the ambitious

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When LeBron James was drafted in the NBA, people assumed he was a born superstar. What they didn’t realize though is that he was already playing for 14 years before he got drafted.

He practiced through his teenage years, put in the hard work, and even after he started with NBA, he still had to grind his way to become better.

Being ambitious entails a lot of judgement from society. Our society is built on stereotypical concepts that hinder the progress of the country. Young and ambitious individuals tend to get confused when people call them out for not doing things the “traditional” way.

The judgement that we receive often tells us that things are “not supposed to be done that way”; “we can’t achieve anything that way”; “things won’t always turn out the way you wanted it.”- restricting our every action and will to take risks.

But I sincerely believe that the only thing stopping you in this world is yourself. It is our fault when we succumb to the comments of other people.

Because when people tell us that things can’t be achieved in the way that we think would work, it reflects their limitations, not ours.

The problem is that not everyone is ready to hear this fact, some people don’t have the mental stability to accept it as constructive criticism. This is because some people are durable, some are feeble.

But we have to understand that the context of this doesn’t mean that other people are better than the others, it is not meant to be an insult nor an elitist remark.

It’s about understanding the fact that you control your life, no one else controls it, and what you do with it depends only on you.

Taking control of our own life helps us make better decisions. This is because regret is always sold after the show, and it could be extremely brutal.

It’s better to grow old with so many failures than regrets. I’d rather do it and see the result. If it’s a failure, then it’s okay. I’ll learn from it, move on, and be better after.

The experiences that I’ve gained from these particular scenarios is what I should make use of to improve on future ventures.

Whether you’re young or old, if you think this situation also applies to you, if you want to finally begin, you need to realize these few things:

1. Find your passion

Dig up the things that you are passionate about and work on it in simple ways. If you’re still on the exploration stage, the best thing to do is to just do something for a start. Start working on something no matter how small. If you think that music is your calling, then by all means, stand up, get a mic and an instrument, and create something. Write a song, create lyrics, or message other independent artists out there. The important thing is you’ve started.

For those of us who want to venture on business, get a business idea and do it. Most people overthink too much before doing so, but the reality is that it doesn’t matter if you fail or succeed. The important thing is that you’re learning, you’re seeing things in an actual businessman’s perspective. Giving in to laziness will not get you anywhere, starting would, even if it leads you to failure. Because if you do, then you have all the time to stop, pick yourself up, then start all over again.

Don’t be scared to fail, not all startups are meant to succeed anyway, some are just stepping stones or stages in life that will make you realize what you really want. If I didn’t start, I wouldn’t have known that this is what I really want. It took a while and it took a lot to realize it. But don’t worry, because these stepping stones will lead you to your passion, there will be key people that you will eventually meet and will guide you into something, which brings us to the next step.

2. Get a mentor

If you’re starting a business, your life will be full of ups and downs. The best way to get through it is by finding mentors. There are three mentors that you’ll be needing if you want to venture into entrepreneurship.

First, find a mentor of the same market. The industry that you’re going in will most probably be one that has existed for years, if not for decades. The fact that it survived for years means that there’s a foundation to that industry that is solid enough.You need to understand the very foundation of that business, because that in turn, will also be the foundation of your market.

Years ago, I just went all in believing that I can do it independently. Although I didn’t regret it, I would’ve saved time and resources if I had someone that would guide me through those first few steps. Save yourself some time from experiencing the possible defeat you’ll encounter if you do it by yourself, because the truth is, you don’t know everything.

Working on your passion will require you to work on even the small details. Getting a mentor that has more experience than you in your industry is the first step to understanding these details.

Secondly, get a niche mentor. For you to succeed in your market, you need to create something based on the need that you’re aiming for. This has to be unique, an intersection of multiple fields.

A niche mentor will give you the upper hand in your market by making you a bit different, giving your business some spice, something that separates you from other businesses out there. If you believe that technology will upgrade the traditional food industry, then get someone that can mentor you with technology.

Amidst all that, there will be a chance that your mentors will have contradicting remarks. This is what you’ll be needing. You need the different perspectives from the two fields in order to think critically and decide for yourself. You’ll find the advice from both ends and adjust accordingly.

Lastly, you’ll need a life mentor. This is not to say that you need to get a psychologist as your mentor. It doesn’t have to be technical. Like I said, if you’re going to be an entrepreneur, you’ll be going through a lot of ups and downs.

Getting a life mentor is essential to these parts of your life as an entrepreneur. You’ll be needing advice when tough times happen. When your business demands for accountability and responsibility, you’ll be needing your mentor’s advice on how to get through it.

Being the owner of a business, you’ll be working day and night to make that company succeed. You’ll think about the delivery of each project, the maintenance of the company, its consistent growth, the revenue stream, how long you’ll survive with the amount of capital that you have, the finances, the legal aspects of the business, and lastly, you need to think about your employees and their morale.

This is all contrary to how a typical employee views the company. It’s not their responsibility to think about the state of the company or the other employees after all. This is why you need to turn to your life mentor for advice. A life mentor will guide you through the non-technical aspect of the business. Because although you’re the one dictating the flow of the company, you cannot do everything. You’ll be needing help from other people.

3. Persevere

The idea that there is this one trait that you need to be great at everything is not true. There’s a lot of traits that you need to be good at, these traits are essential for your business to succeed. But to me, there are certain traits that are more important than the other. This trait is about a mental fortitude to persevere with things.

Mental fortitude is about being able to withstand pressure, maintain endurance, and persevere through the hardships in life.

Having a weak mental fortitude will lead you to fail during hard times, because this will restrict your capability to push through. You can’t hire someone with a strong mentality and do the job for you during these times. Because that will make him the CEO, not you. This is because mental fortitude is built on ambition. Not the way you are raised up as a child.

However, if you have the mentality to persevere through your rough patches, even if you’re not used to working hard, you can find someone with whom you can delegate the tasks needed and let him work hard for the company. Your ambition will lead you through the hardships with the help of your hardworking employees. Because if you don’t have the ambition, why are you doing this in the first place?

Having an ambition leads to you playing out your strengths. Understanding yourself on what your strengths are to see what advantages you can get out of them. Your weaknesses can be compensated by having someone who’s better at you on that field to cover for you and train you to work on your weakness while you stay focused on your strength.

If you’re a hard worker but you have trouble with getting negative comments, then get someone who is more mentally stable than you who can train you on how to cope up with criticisms while you take advantage of your hard work.

So, play right when dealing with your strengths and weaknesses. Persevere whenever bad times are happening and be ambitious towards your goal. These are the only things that you really need to keep your journey as an entrepreneur going. Ambition will drive you and perseverance will sustain you. Your people can help you with the rest. Because since you started and initiated the company, people will rely on you for the direction of every single decision, and you need to be ready for it.

Don’t be afraid to get help from people on the technical aspect, because they won’t have the burden of sustaining the business. They will be determined by the tasks you set them to do. You, on the other hand, see the bigger picture. They don’t have the responsibility to see the business the same way as how you see it in every aspect. So, in the end, they depend on you.

This is why you are responsible for everything. And despite how overwhelming the thought may be, take the risk and learn from your every breakthrough.




Entries from a guy that’s formerly ‘obsessed with success’.

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